What do you look for in a lover??

[Negi-kun]

probably something to do with parents, of course, and maybe a little "studying" thrown in there.XD Overall though, you just have to tell yourself that if she keeps making excuses, she's just missing out. I did that for my first crush (she didn't ever go out with me), and then another, better, girl came along and we did go out a few times.

BTW, Ryo, if you knew these two girls like I did you'd know how hard it is to choose one and risk hurting the other's feelings. (oh, and I noticed ANOTHER girl trying to catch my eye today... *sigh* such is the life of a sexy beast like me)

[Z]

Sexy...beast? Are you sure you're not deluding yourself? XD

But then, the point is this: stick to your guns (both figuratively and literally ... well, maybe not literally) and sơner or later something _will_ happen. Either you'll get the girl, or it just wasn't meant to survive.

[Negi-kun]

haha... I'm just kidding. but the girls do like me. maybe it's because I make them smile whenever I talk to them. OR could it be the other way around? hmm...

[Ryo Misaki]

Z... I doubt that BobCat'll kill me before completion of the list. I mean, he assigned it... Doesnt he want to see it finished, before he Whomps me to death? O__o;;;

As for the excuses... They're legitimate... Or at least I'm naieve enough for them. XD
Most is business due to school and home life. Which is perfectly understandable...
Ooooorrr... I could just be completely screwed. But I like to think positive. =P

Though, Negi... I know BobCat's trying to make me see otherwise... I still doubt that time without me is really 'missing out'. T__T
I'm sure MUCH better things can be done with time than to waste it with someone as I. XD

And... why do you seem to have so much luck? You bastard... I can barely get a girl to notice me. -_-;;;

[Z]

And why's that? Surely you have SOMETHING that gets a girl's eye!

Or...be brave! Get in the girl's face! That'll get you noticed.

[BobCat]

Originally Posted by Ryo Misaki

Though, Negi... I know BobCat's trying to make me see otherwise... I still doubt that time without me is really 'missing out'. T__T
I'm sure MUCH better things can be done with time than to waste it with someone as I. XD

Meh. Spending time with you is not a waste.

And... why do you seem to have so much luck? You bastard... I can barely get a girl to notice me. -_-;;;

It is not luck. It is a skill that can be learned.

May I recommend Dale Carnegie's book How to make friends and influence people? That's a *start*

The other part is to be more confident. You need to first see how awesome you are.

Afterwards, you should make another list: "100 things I can offer a potential girlfriend"

And make sure back massages are on that list. They like that OK, 99 more to go

*THUMP*

Ryo-dono? Oh great, he fainted from all the homework I'm assigning him

[Z]

Fainted? I'd expect a coma XD

[Ryo Misaki]

And why's that? Surely you have SOMETHING that gets a girl's eye!

Um... Like what? There isnt TOO much special I have.... Other than a good attitude, awesome work ethic, good humor, kind personality... And the uber ability to OWN AT DDR. (Not that that's very useful in getting girls. T__T)

Or...be brave! Get in the girl's face! That'll get you noticed.

Um... Example? I'm not about to get all forward and forceful... But I have been gathering up small amounts of courage lately. It helps, but isnt quite enough yet... >__>

Meh. Spending time with you is not a waste.

Is it not? Well... I dun see how it's very worthwhile. =Þ

Afterwards, you should make another list: "100 things I can offer a potential girlfriend"

... O__O ... *twitch, twitch* :::Goes into spazms, seizes up, then promptly dies...:::

...

:::Returns to life several minutes later... Blinks... Thinks, twitches, then stops thinking about it much...:::

Ano... ANOTHER list?
Um... Well... I'm pretty sure I could probably write up a good 20 or so on that subject... Not that it'd help much... (But I CAN give massages! And pretty good ones too. =P)

I dunno about confidence... I think I'm gaining some, little by little... Even if it has to be forcefully. XD
But, I think more than anything... I'm slowly gathering courage... And I think that's very important. (Then again, they are probably closely linked...)

I hope for something good to happen in the next week or so...
Or else, I might have another very bitter Over-Solicited Love Day. T___T
(Whoever decided to make Valentine's Day a holiday like this... Should be SHOT! <__<;;; )

[Z]

I dunno.... Valentine's Day probably evolved into something like this. Darn retailers XD

All those? What are you waiting for, then? Play your cards and you're almost guaranteed a date. (well, maybe not the DDR one but...)

[Forever a Legend]

Sleeping Gas to get a date = yay

[BobCat]

Originally Posted by Ryo Misaki

(But I CAN give massages! And pretty good ones too. =P)

Excellent. That is an attractive trait in a man.

(Whoever decided to make Valentine's Day a holiday like this... Should be SHOT! <__<;;; )

It was originally a holiday that was created to celebrate this one bishop (St. Valentine) who was secretly marrying couples, if I recall correctly. But then the money makers wanted in on this and viola....

[Ryo Misaki]

I dunno.... Valentine's Day probably evolved into something like this. Darn retailers

Evolved? Hell... It was probably CREATED by those damned retailers! XD

I need to start drawing again... Gotta have my ritualistic bitter Valentines Day comic.... =P

All those? What are you waiting for, then? Play your cards and you're almost guaranteed a date. (well, maybe not the DDR one but...)

You might say "All those"... but, it's really not that much. Personality can only go so far. I dont have many great skills to offer... And I look like crap. T__T
(Well, granted, my face isnt THAT bad... But from the neck down... Its just awful. >.<)
Mind you, though, I AM working on it... But change happens so slowly... >__>

Yeah, yeah... I know... "Looks arent everything!"
But I still cant help from this being one of my biggest insecurities... I mean, who wants to date someone three times their size? Its just creepy. -_-;;;

It was originally a holiday that was created to celebrate this one bishop (St. Valentine) who was secretly marrying couples, if I recall correctly. But then the money makers wanted in on this and viola...

Oh... So you mean there really WAS some legitimate history behind the holiday? Interesting!
But then Big Business came in and bought the holiday out. <_<;;;

Sleeping Gas to get a date = yay

Someone from work reccomended something like that to me... I think it was more like, "Roofies in the Coke." XD

Still... I'm more for the traditional methods... No matter how futile they may seem.
I'm not looking for a cheap thrill... I want something true and lasting. O__o

[Z]

You want traditional?! Personality IS traditional!!

But yeah. I understand about the "long and lasting" part. Maybe if you turned that Valentine's day angst into an effort to search for a lover, just MAYBE you'd get her. No wait, that didn't come out right:

You WILL get her!! Keep trying!!

[Negi-kun]

Originally Posted by Z741

And why's that? Surely you have SOMETHING that gets a girl's eye!

Or...be brave! Get in the girl's face! That'll get you noticed.

Don't. I swear to god, don't. It'll just make them think you're an idiot.

It helps if you sit near them. Like me, I'll bring gum or mints to school every day. If you offer them some, they'll take it, and you can use that as a springboard for a conversation with her, maybe even asking her out to the local "whatever". Good luck tho'.

PS. I don't have good luck, they just all know me because I try and talk to them like friends. That. is. key. just be friends at first. Then, when you think she's comfortable with you, ask her out to the mall or something. Preferably with friends. That way, you can both get used to going out with eachother, but it can get gradually more personal.

also, you can TRY this site. I found it to be very helpful.

http://www.romanceclass.com

[Ryo Misaki]

I suppose you're right, Z... I do put alot of energy into that angst... >___>
Unfortunately, due to my mom... I missed my chance to see her last night. T__T
There's... 2 or 3 more chances to see her before that day...
Mmm... But I do have a phone also... There's no excuse. >.<

Negi... First, I never really carry gum or mints around. O__o
Second... The whole sitting next to them in class dun work.
She's not in any of my classes. XD
(Actually... she's graduating at the end of this semester... ...FSCK! >_<)

But it's not that bad... We're in Japanese club together... And I visit her at work often. (Though she never comes to mine. -_-)
And we do talk... and we are friends. Not REALLY close of friends... But still.
And we tend to go out to DDR alot... But I want to do something more worthwhile... But just havent had the chance to yet.
(Not that I havent TRIED... Yes, I HAVE asked her.)

[BobCat]

Why make a big move? Sheesh. Make a series of smaller moves.

Work on being closer friends. Talk about personal things.