What do you look for in a lover??

[Z]

Since Love Hina is a romance related manga, the question is:

What traits do you look for in a lover?

(I'll post mine at a later date, sorry)

[Kiatsu]

i look for personality ^_~;; i dont really care what he looks like .... well maybe... but not that much as personality... he has to be sweet, nice, honest, trustworthy, dependable, and caring ... and whatever good traits one has... i dont really expect him to be perfect.. but i wanna see those kind of traits in him... even just a little XD lol

[sitdogboy!]

Same here, but I voted money T__T

[Forever a Legend]

I'm all for personality. and boobs.

[Holden Caulfield]

I'm for personality. They can be the best looking guy in the world, but if their personality sucks, then it'll make for a bad relationship. But personality isn't everything, he has to be easy on the eyes, but not so good looking he's always looking in the mirror and combing his fingers through his hair. I hate guys who are in love with their own reflection!!!

[Zero Eiyuu]

Personality...that's what I love about her, but that just isn't why I love her...

[Z]

Yep. Pretty much the same for me.

Personality's the most important, and she's gotta be at least a _little_ bit nice looking.

Other than that, ther's gotta be one thing - respect. She respects me, and i do the same.

[BobCat]

I chose personality, though it is not what I am looking for.

For me, it is character. If you can't trust someone, why bother being with them? If someone has good character, you know they're not going to hurt you. But this means you gotta have good character to make sure you don't hurt them otherwise the relationship is doomed.

[Ryo Misaki]

Personality. Most definately!
I mean... Looks DO play a part... But only second in the importance list of factors in a person... O__o

Fortunately... I think I've found someone with near perfect (in my opinion) personality...
I cant find a single thing that I dont like about her.

So now... My only problem is gathering the balls to tell her that I like her. ^_^;;;

(But of course... the majority of you already know about that whole issue. XD)

[BobCat]

Originally Posted by Ryo Misaki

So now... My only problem is gathering the balls to tell her that I like her. ^_^;;;

Bust a move. You got nothing to lose.

If she rejects you, then there is something wrong with her. She has bad taste in men Who wants a woman like that?

If she as sweet as you say she is, she'll go for you in a heartbeat.

[Solo]

Must like guns.

[Ryo Misaki]

Bust a move. You got nothing to lose.

If she rejects you, then there is something wrong with her. She has bad taste in men Who wants a woman like that?

If she as sweet as you say she is, she'll go for you in a heartbeat.

Bust a Move? Like... the puzzle game? XD

Ehh... You wouldnt guess it... But I have HUUUGE insecurity issues about myself... T__T
Bad taste in men? But who's to say I'm all that good anyway? <_<;;;

Plus, it's not so much the rejection that I fear... It's what things would be like between us AFTER rejection that I fear. >_>

Now, my biggest problem is finding the right place and time to tell her... And maybe how exactly to tell her... T__T

[Noriyasu]

fuaha...nobody knows!

[Solo]

Originally Posted by BobCat

Bust a move. You got nothing to lose.

If she rejects you, then there is something wrong with her. She has bad taste in men Who wants a woman like that?

If she as sweet as you say she is, she'll go for you in a heartbeat.

And in the long run, it doesn't matter.
Come ot think of it, none of us or what we do reall matters in hte long run.

Have fun.

[BobCat]

Originally Posted by Ryo Misaki

Bust a Move? Like... the puzzle game? XD

No, like YoungMC http://www.lyricsondemand.com/onehit...ovelyrics.html

Ehh... You wouldnt guess it... But I have HUUUGE insecurity issues about myself... T__T

Insecurity, meh. In life, you will have people try to cut you down. Don't help them by cutting yourself down.

Bad taste in men? But who's to say I'm all that good anyway? <_<;;;

Who says you're "not that good"? C'mon. That's nonsense.

Dude, you need to sit down and write 100 good things about you. Think long and hard. You may need to do this over several days. Don't blow this off. You CAN Find 100 good things about you. If you can't finish the list, add to it as you find out new good things about yourself.
If you find yourself cutting yourself down, pick up that paper, read it, and see how good you really are.

The interesting thing is: you are actually better than you think you are.
Think Shinobu-chan. Imagine what she could do if she didn't feel so bad about herself. (and the odd part is, she rocks at lots of stuff)

Plus, it's not so much the rejection that I fear... It's what things would be like between us AFTER rejection that I fear. >_>

Eh. She's a good person right? If you confess and she rejects you, just say "OK, no problemo. I understand and respect your decision, and will not hold it against you. Let's continue our friendship as if nothing happened. "

A good way to prepare yourself is to ask her what she looks for in a guy. And listen carefully. If you're close to the description, then confessing is safer.

Now, my biggest problem is finding the right place and time to tell her... And maybe how exactly to tell her... T__T

A nice moonlit beach on a warm night. A park on a beautiful day. A carnival on a ferris wheel. A wonderful view of a lake or river. The romantic possibilities are endless.

[Ryo Misaki]

No, like YoungMC

I know, I know... I was joking. =P
It just goes to show how much of a nerd I am... >_>

Insecurity, meh. In life, you will have people try to cut you down. Don't help them by cutting yourself down.

Ah, but see... I think oppositely. Because of a long time of peopel cutting me down... I've decided to save the anguish by beating them to the punch. They cant make fun of me if I make fun of me FOR them, can they? HAH! XD

Who says you're "not that good"? C'mon. That's nonsense.

Dude, you need to sit down and write 100 good things about you. Think long and hard. You may need to do this over several days. Don't blow this off. You CAN Find 100 good things about you. If you can't finish the list, add to it as you find out new good things about yourself.
If you find yourself cutting yourself down, pick up that paper, read it, and see how good you really are.

The interesting thing is: you are actually better than you think you are.
Think Shinobu-chan. Imagine what she could do if she didn't feel so bad about herself. (and the odd part is, she rocks at lots of stuff)

I say I'm not that good. I dunno if anyone else does. Some people say I am good... But often times I dont see it. =Þ

List of 100 good things about me? Are you KIDDING me? I'd be lucky if I can come up with 10. o__O;;;
I suppose I could try this project... Could be a good time killer. And I could post it too. =P

You're kinda right though... I myself am quite fond of the analogy used in Fruits Baskets. People are like Onigiri (Riceballs). They look in the mirror, and all they see is themselves. Just plain, white rice. But when they look around at other people, they see the Umiboshi (the little 'jewel' of some kind of food or something to make Onigiri more interesting and flavorful.) on everyone's back. But they cant see their own back, so they think they arent special.

I always liked that analogy... But still... I dont think I'm that great. XÞ

Eh. She's a good person right? If you confess and she rejects you, just say "OK, no problemo. I understand and respect your decision, and will not hold it against you. Let's continue our friendship as if nothing happened. "

A good way to prepare yourself is to ask her what she looks for in a guy. And listen carefully. If you're close to the description, then confessing is safer.

I suppose... And yet... It still doesnt feel like it's that easy.
I mean, it's easy to say "Let's forget this ever happened and continue on as it was."
But, it DID happen. And it's not easy to forget. Especially with me liking her... And her knowing I like her... But not liking me and all...
And considering that pretty much everything I do is BECAUSE I like her... O__o;;;;

Soo... How do I just randomly bring up a question like that without sounding akward? There's never really converstation that goes close enough to that topic to make it seem natural to ask that sort of thing. And to just ask it out of the blue would be all like, "WTF? Why the hell are you asking that?" XD

A nice moonlit beach on a warm night. A park on a beautiful day. A carnival on a ferris wheel. A wonderful view of a lake or river. The romantic possibilities are endless.

Indeed... I've had many fantasies...
But mind you... This is Wichita Falls, Texas.
We have no Moonlit Beach... No Carnival...
We do have parks... And I do know a good place with a somewhat pretty view of a lake...
But how do I get us there?
Again... It would be kinda weird to just up and be like, "Oh, lets go to this place out in the middle of nowhere." <__<;;;

Yare, yare... I'm being awfully pessimistic, arent I? It's no good at all. T__T :::Kicks self:::

[BobCat]

Originally Posted by Ryo Misaki

Ah, but see... I think oppositely. Because of a long time of peopel cutting me down... I've decided to save the anguish by beating them to the punch. They cant make fun of me if I make fun of me FOR them, can they? HAH! XD

But is that time continuing? Or has it past? I doubt you're going through such a time now. Allow yourself to recover.

Besides, you are your own worst critic. This is almost a universal truth. Imagine how others are thinking bad about themselves. That cool guy you meet may secretly have certain insecurities. That outgoing girl has insecurities too. They won't flat out tell you their insecurities, they keep it to themselves.

List of 100 good things about me? Are you KIDDING me? I'd be lucky if I can come up with 10. o__O;;;

That's BS. You're underestimating yourself.

I suppose I could try this project... Could be a good time killer. And I could post it too. =P

hey, why not have your friends and family help? It is good to have those who know you, and are close to you, help.

You're kinda right though... I myself am quite fond of the analogy used in Fruits Baskets. People are like Onigiri (Riceballs). They look in the mirror, and all they see is themselves. Just plain, white rice. But when they look around at other people, they see the Umiboshi (the little 'jewel' of some kind of food or something to make Onigiri more interesting and flavorful.) on everyone's back. But they cant see their own back, so they think they arent special.

Good analogy.

I suppose... And yet... It still doesnt feel like it's that easy.
I mean, it's easy to say "Let's forget this ever happened and continue on as it was."
But, it DID happen. And it's not easy to forget. Especially with me liking her... And her knowing I like her... But not liking me and all...

Well, if she values your friendship, she won't hold your confession against you.

And considering that pretty much everything I do is BECAUSE I like her... O__o;;;;

Ah. I see things you can put on your list. (things you do for her)

Soo... How do I just randomly bring up a question like that without sounding akward? There's never really converstation that goes close enough to that topic to make it seem natural to ask that sort of thing. And to just ask it out of the blue would be all like, "WTF? Why the hell are you asking that?" XD

What, you guys don't watch TV? Why not watch some anime with her and especially an epi